In a conversation with Pearl’s teacher this week, we heard that Pearl is more-or-less stuck at a level in her mathematics. It’s an interesting conundrum, because Pearl claims that the maths is too easy and she wants harder work – but her teacher says that when she tries to give her harder work, Pearl can’t do it and gets upset.
We know that Pearl tends to be a perfectionist and is risk-averse – she would rather not answer a question than take the chance of getting it wrong. She definitely has the brains, just not the confidence. Learning a new skill, or taking something up a level, requires intensive effort on her part and the part of whoever is teaching/coaching her – lots of reassurance, patience, repetition and encouragement. Sooner or later there is a “tipping point” or “a-ha!” moment, and all of a sudden it’s easy for her, she picks up confidence and we’re away laughing.
The exception seems to be languages – she says Japanese is “fun but hard” (exactly what schooling is meant to be, in my opinion – you’re learning, and enjoying it), and has begged me to re-start our Latin lessons, which have been on hold during the renovation chaos. She really loves the work involved in learning a language, and doesn’t seem to suffer from confidence problems with them.
Back to maths. With some advice from friends, I decided to ask the school for the “harder” worksheets and skill sets that she’s been struggling with, so I can give her the one-to-one attention she needs, at home over the holidays. I was a bit worried, though, that she would be resistant to doing school-work over summer, or even feel like it was a punishment – certainly not my intention. So I asked her what she thought.
Her eyes lit up, she rubbed her hands in glee, and gasped, “That would be SO! FUN!”
I suppose it’s alright then. Summer Maths Camp, here we come!
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Tags: children, Family, japanese, language, latin, learning, mathematics, parenting, school, summer
December 13, 2010 at 1:59 am |
Wow. Hold on to THAT kid. But really though, good for her! Sam is risk averse too. It stresses him out to not do things perfectly. He’s finally getting a little better though.