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Relay For Life 2013 – and remembering Susan

February 6, 2013

A year ago on this day, 6 February, my good friend Susan Niebur (WhyMommy) died of inflammatory breast cancer.

Susan Niebur, 1972 - 2012 (photo credit: Kristen, @mommy4cocktails)

Susan Niebur, 1972 – 2012 (photo credit: Kristen, @mommy4cocktails)

Since then, another friend, Jenny, a fellow New Zealander whom I had “met” online through Susan, also died of inflammatory breast cancer.

My own family has also been touched – no, not touched, smashed into – by cancer.  Cancer doesn’t visit lightly.

As you may know, for the past couple of years Pearl and I have taken part in the local Relay For Life to raise funds for the NZ Cancer Society.  We can’t run this year, but we are still supporting the Relay.  My sister – The Fabulous Auntie B – and her children are still managing a team.  We will help them raise funds and cheer them on from the sidelines in March during the event.

I hope you will continue to support Relay – whether it’s our team in our event, or another team, or your local event – in whatever way possible.  If you know me in real life and would like to donate to our team, please contact me for details.

If you don’t know me in real life but would still like to donate – hooray! Please go to the Relay For Life website and donate to any team you like.  Or find your own local Relay For Life or Cancer Society webpage and donate there instead.  The important thing is to help these societies support people with cancer and their families.

Celebrate – Remember – Fight Back!

For Susan, for her family – Curt, Widget, Little Bear.  For her friends, too many to number here, but including Marty, Stimey, Kristen, Jessica, Kelley.

For Jenny, and her family and friends.

For my family.

For your family.

For ourselves, should we ever need it – they’ll be there.

© UpsideBackwards 2013.

Susan

April 12, 2012

Susan Niebur, 1973 - 2012 (photo credit: Kristen, @mommy4cocktails)

Every time I look at the stars, I think of Susan.  We used to talk about the different constellations we could see in our different parts of the world.  She longed to see the Southern Cross one day.  When I look up and see it, I like to imagine her standing next me, looking up too.

Every time I read about advances in cancer research, I think of Susan.  How she tirelessly advocated for new, better, different research, especially into metastatic cancers.  How she participated in clinical trials, and encouraged women to join the Army of Women for further research.

Every time we read a “The Cat in the Hat Knows A Lot About That!” book, I think of Susan.  Her love of science, and her skill for communicating that, especially to children, and how she inspired so many mothers to encourage their children’s questions and help them find the answers.  She gave my kids a Cat in The Hat book, and it’s one of our family favourites.

Every time I hear of a new planet being discovered, I think of Susan.  For all my own interest in science and astronomy, I hadn’t really thought about what a planetary scientist might be or do until she taught me.  And now I can’t think of a more fascinating job.

Every time I taste Whittaker’s Dark Caramel, I remember the first day we met, when I gave her a block as a gift.  She offered to share it, but I told her to taste it first – after all, I can have it any time at home, but it’s not readily available in the US.  She did, and the most incredible look came over her face.  “You’re right,” she declared, “this is not for sharing!” and she tucked it into her handbag.  We both laughed.  I sent her a couple of “care parcels” later, and I know she did share them.

Every time I see a beagle, I think of Susan.  She loved beagles, and fostered rescued beagles.  If I ever get a dog (which admittedly is unlikely), I think I’d like to call it Kepler, after her beloved pet.

Every time I write a blog post, I think of Susan.  She was my very first, and closest, blog-friend.  She wrote a guest post for Kelley which sums up the sort of relationship brilliantly.  She also introduced me to lots of my other blog-friends, including Kelley, Stimey, Jenny, Marty and plenty more.

Goodbye, dear friend.  Thank you for all you taught me, and the friendships you have gifted me with.  You are always in my heart and mind, and I will never forget you.

© UpsideBackwards 2012.

Farewell, friend

February 7, 2012

Today was Fainjin’s first day at school.  It was a good one, but I can’t blog about it tonight.  I am too sad.  Susan Niebur, Whymommy, died today (6 Feb in the US).  She was a wonderful person, and a great friend.

I will write more another time.

My deepest sympathy goes out to Curt, Widget, Little Bear (the same age as Fainjin), and to all Susan’s many many friends in “real life” and online.  We have lost a treasure today.

© UpsideBackwards 2012.


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